The “Bully Pen”

Dear Editor:

Thoughts and words have great power. The discourse we hear among politicians, internet, TV and radio sound bites can be devastating to ourselves and worse yet, our children. There is little we hear out of context that sustains civility these days. It is way past time to change the dialogue and strive for considerate conversation among individuals, families and groups.

One example of this nonsense, is those who profess that it is more important to “beat the opponent” than to believe in a set mission for a person that one might support. Why wouldn’t it be important to seek out a leader, while however human and flawed, might stand for most of what one believes in and moves people in a positive and forward way? What a waste of time to simply “slam” the other person. And you wonder why we have trouble with bullying in school? Adults sure can play the part of silly children in a school yard who take pleasure in “put downs.” They might do it in a more subtle, artful manner, but it is still a form of bullying.

Time for the adults to grow up, stop pointing fingers and believe in a purpose and strong work ethic that values the worth of many and not just themselves, but further serves a greater good than just putting down others and playing the “zero sum game.” We are truly better than the animals as humans on this planet. We, and our indulgent media culture, must begin to be a better model for our children. Most of this begins at home with better talk, real face-to-face and a little tough love and less media. And lastly, adults must begin to walk their own talk without constant blame toward others. I am really tired of it.

Joanne Tomasello
Berkeley Springs